So you’ve just had your heart broken. Ouch! It hurts bad, real bad. It feels like you’ll never recover from that, ever, right?
You don’t want to trust another woman in your life for as long as you live, right? You just want to shut yourself in your room and never come out. While these are normal emotions one goes through, here’s how you can survive a heartbreak:
Men don’t cryThat’s the silliest thing I have ever heard. Crying is very natural for men and women, the latter more so. If you’re sad you will cry. One of the best things you can do after a break up is to cry it out. There’s no shame in that. It’s rather harmful to keep your emotions bottled up. Let it out. You will feel good. Go wail into a pillow if you like.
Talk to someoneTalk about it to someone you trust, man or woman. It doesn’t matter. Women will be emotionally supportive and will not stop talking about it unless you do, while men will try their best to distract you and put your mind off it. So choose your shoulder accordingly. But talking will help. Once you get out those feelings out in the open, you will feel lighter.
Have funJust because you have had a breakup, doesn’t mean you have to turn into an introvert. Continue to make plans with your friends. Go to movies, clubs, parks, whatever it is that you were doing before. Try new cuisines, travel, just get out and do things that make you happy. And stop watching sad movies, and listening to sad songs. It will only make you feel crappier.
Write about itTalking will help, but your friends might not have enough time to hear you out completely, or you might want to keep certain things from them. You can write about it instead. Pick a laptop or a diary and pour our heart out. No one will judge you here, or ridicule you. It’s just between you and the page. You will realise that writing is more therapeutic than anything else. Through writing, you might even discover newer things about yourself.
Get back into the gameYou’ve mourned for weeks, months, a year, even. Enough. She has moved on, so should you. There is absolutely no point in holding on to her memories. She will be a part of your life, yes, but that doesn’t mean you stop living. Ask your friends to set you up. Or if your friends are no good, get out and start looking for her yourself. Join a salsa class, or a trekking club, or a drama group. Basically any community that attracts a good mix of men and women.
Read books or seek help from the internetThere have been tons of books written about the subject. Go to Crossword or Landmark and pick one of these books, if you like. I remember once seeing a book called, It’s called a breakup because it is broken. Even the internet is a great source for a broken heart. There will be millions of blogs, or forums where people will be readily available to help you out.
Whatever be the reason for the breakup, your fault or hers, forget about it and get a move on. Don’t put your life on hold. And give it some time. Time heals everything. You might not believe that right this instant, but in retrospect you will see that it was true.